It is crucial to understand what exactly is the goal of parenting. It is to grow a mature responsible person from a small baby. We are to nurture and protect eh child, while still allowing them to come into their own. Some parents do not see parenting this way.
Of course, we all know what it is like out in the world, and wish we could keep our children from it. But that is not reality. Keeping them from experiencing the world will only do more harm in the long run.
For a child to grow into an adult, they must experience independence and making mistakes. This can be the most difficult thing for parents, but we must do it, for our children's sake.
There are no exact figures on allowing your child more space; however, usually they will begin expressing a need for more space as they get into their teen years, many times even during the preteen years. Mistakes will be made along the way, but they are the things that will help them learn and grow. Letting out the reigns slowly and lovingly can make all the difference. Acknowledging that it won't be too long from now that they will be emerging into the adult world without your wisdom and guidance to help them, is all the more reason to start letting go of them while you are still the supervisor. This doesn't mean letting them do whatever they want whenever they want, however it does mean allowing them to spend some time with their friends unsupervised by grown-ups allowing them to test their own decision making skills and the values that you have given them.
Doing this will allow you to see how much of what you taught them, they really did learn from and listen to. You may be surprised that it is probably more than you think.
Of course, we all know what it is like out in the world, and wish we could keep our children from it. But that is not reality. Keeping them from experiencing the world will only do more harm in the long run.
For a child to grow into an adult, they must experience independence and making mistakes. This can be the most difficult thing for parents, but we must do it, for our children's sake.
There are no exact figures on allowing your child more space; however, usually they will begin expressing a need for more space as they get into their teen years, many times even during the preteen years. Mistakes will be made along the way, but they are the things that will help them learn and grow. Letting out the reigns slowly and lovingly can make all the difference. Acknowledging that it won't be too long from now that they will be emerging into the adult world without your wisdom and guidance to help them, is all the more reason to start letting go of them while you are still the supervisor. This doesn't mean letting them do whatever they want whenever they want, however it does mean allowing them to spend some time with their friends unsupervised by grown-ups allowing them to test their own decision making skills and the values that you have given them.
Doing this will allow you to see how much of what you taught them, they really did learn from and listen to. You may be surprised that it is probably more than you think.
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