Look at me: I ve got a case of body language, Freddie Mercury
Can you flirt with body language? It is scientifically proven that in human communication 55% of information is passed with the aid of gestures and mimics, compared to only 7% which is passed through pure meaning of words. Somewhere in between (35%) is communication with the aid of intonation and pace of a speech. Is it yet another corroboration of Darwinism? Perhaps, but this is not a subject of this article. The subject is: how can we attract another person with the body language? What we have to do, so it will be just like in this old song of the Queen: Look at me
Looking in the eyes. When we are engaged in a business conversation, we are usually focused, and it feels like we are looking straight into the eyes of our counterpart. In reality our eyes cannot stay fixed, they scan the face of a person along a tight closed path: left eye - middle space - right eye, and so on. When we are more relaxed, like, for example, we are talking with a friend, eyes still follow the cyclic path, but it is not that tight anymore. Our eyes scanning his (or her) face along an upset triangle with a base slightly below the eye-line and the vertex at the person mouth.
When we are flirting, especially with someone we are seeing for the first time, the area of our eye scan gets even bigger. The more our sexual interest to the person, the more actively we focus on her (his) lips. Likewise, if the person you are talking to cannot lift her (his) eyes from your lips, while you are chatting on how you first time turned to the idea of dating online (or about your recent trip to Guatemala) rest assured: this person is already kissing your lips in her(his) imagination. Thinking this way is equal to wanting.
Ape me, baby. How body language can show a difference between a light, playful and a strong, passionate sexual attraction? The passion can be revealed through total mimicking of the object of desire. Meaning of it? Probably, to show that if you copy a person, you have or aspire to have a lot in common with him (or her). The origin of this signaling behavior can be a bit deeper, but how can we tell it now? Good news is that we can use it. Of course, such thing should be used moderately, without getting into complete copycatting, when all features, good and bad alike are reproduced: this can be perceived as a mockery. Also, it is always good to hold at least for a minute, before taking your turn on repetitive gesture.
Move your eyebrows. Did you know that if you lift your eyebrows when you meet a person for the first time it will be a sign of friendliness toward that person. If the feeling is mutual: you will get the same up-down motion of eyebrows in response. It looks funny from the side, especially if one of you has bushy eyebrows, it will look as if one cannot see the other clearly through them. But this is one of the oldest ways of winning sympathy (who knows how many thousands of generations of cave men used this trick before actual language was invented)? Now, when you know, you can use it!
Follow the eye sight. One of the most general and clear statements of body language is watching motion of another person. If you do so, you must have an interest toward this person. If that person notices your gaze and moves toward you: the feelings are mutual. This might be a good moment to switch from body language to a real conversation.
You have got a Wink! If you ever dated online, you might know what this means. Same is in a real word: wink is a universal sign of attraction. Want to attract this girl (boy): wink to her (him). Getting a wink back? Good sign, maybe you can start speaking now.
Can you flirt with body language? It is scientifically proven that in human communication 55% of information is passed with the aid of gestures and mimics, compared to only 7% which is passed through pure meaning of words. Somewhere in between (35%) is communication with the aid of intonation and pace of a speech. Is it yet another corroboration of Darwinism? Perhaps, but this is not a subject of this article. The subject is: how can we attract another person with the body language? What we have to do, so it will be just like in this old song of the Queen: Look at me
Looking in the eyes. When we are engaged in a business conversation, we are usually focused, and it feels like we are looking straight into the eyes of our counterpart. In reality our eyes cannot stay fixed, they scan the face of a person along a tight closed path: left eye - middle space - right eye, and so on. When we are more relaxed, like, for example, we are talking with a friend, eyes still follow the cyclic path, but it is not that tight anymore. Our eyes scanning his (or her) face along an upset triangle with a base slightly below the eye-line and the vertex at the person mouth.
When we are flirting, especially with someone we are seeing for the first time, the area of our eye scan gets even bigger. The more our sexual interest to the person, the more actively we focus on her (his) lips. Likewise, if the person you are talking to cannot lift her (his) eyes from your lips, while you are chatting on how you first time turned to the idea of dating online (or about your recent trip to Guatemala) rest assured: this person is already kissing your lips in her(his) imagination. Thinking this way is equal to wanting.
Ape me, baby. How body language can show a difference between a light, playful and a strong, passionate sexual attraction? The passion can be revealed through total mimicking of the object of desire. Meaning of it? Probably, to show that if you copy a person, you have or aspire to have a lot in common with him (or her). The origin of this signaling behavior can be a bit deeper, but how can we tell it now? Good news is that we can use it. Of course, such thing should be used moderately, without getting into complete copycatting, when all features, good and bad alike are reproduced: this can be perceived as a mockery. Also, it is always good to hold at least for a minute, before taking your turn on repetitive gesture.
Move your eyebrows. Did you know that if you lift your eyebrows when you meet a person for the first time it will be a sign of friendliness toward that person. If the feeling is mutual: you will get the same up-down motion of eyebrows in response. It looks funny from the side, especially if one of you has bushy eyebrows, it will look as if one cannot see the other clearly through them. But this is one of the oldest ways of winning sympathy (who knows how many thousands of generations of cave men used this trick before actual language was invented)? Now, when you know, you can use it!
Follow the eye sight. One of the most general and clear statements of body language is watching motion of another person. If you do so, you must have an interest toward this person. If that person notices your gaze and moves toward you: the feelings are mutual. This might be a good moment to switch from body language to a real conversation.
You have got a Wink! If you ever dated online, you might know what this means. Same is in a real word: wink is a universal sign of attraction. Want to attract this girl (boy): wink to her (him). Getting a wink back? Good sign, maybe you can start speaking now.
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