Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Surviving and Thriving After a Painful Break-up

By Ricardo d Argence


All things considered, she is probably moved on. No doubt, there is pain when someone you love is lost. You can have an intimate contact by developing it yourself and not by buying it. It is most difficult in life to lose a person that you raised and molded.

Starting is the easy part, maintaining and succeeding in a relationship is where all the work is. Although relationships can naturally fail, the pain left behind is to be avoided. The healing process of a break-up may differ so much depending on different people and the kind of relationship that existed between them. The time to heal might vary but you have to understand that it is difficult to get over a painful break-up.

Unbearable pain and shame are common occurences when a relationship comes to an end. Provided are lessons learned from a veteran.

Face it, you need to come to terms that the relationship is over. You should force yourself to value the absence of your partner even if you feel like denying the situation. Anger follows after the denial once you realize that you are often getting disturbed by this experience just take it positively and try to overcome it. Celebrate even if things appear to be going the wrong way.

When pressed through denial, and then burned with anger, what follows is an unkind stress that leads to the point of depression. Becoming stressed after a painful experience is normal, but you need to avoid pressures or situations that could lead you into a depressive state.

Being in the company of friends whenever possible will leave you spending less of your time alone, and leave you less prone to dwelling on memories of your past relationship. Try to overcome your stress by sharing with your close friend about your life encounter or even seek advice from a chancellor. This is something that you will discover once your anger and stress have left you. The healing of a painful breakup starts with accepting the real scenerio and thus the hurt is overcome slowly.

When it all plays out , it can be good to leave the past behind. Take time to understand the discover your thoughts and words once again. You won't ever feel at peace with yourself if you allow your past to haunt you. If you follow this path you will never know true peace, as your past mistakes will always be guiding your actions.

Expanding your vision and building a healthier self image will be valuable to the way you live your life. I would advice you not to give up on matters of love but give a trial to another relationship. A break up is not a reason enough as to why you should live an unfulfilling life. Difficult times develops lasting character. These steps will help you get over a painful break-up of your relationship.

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