It seems that we need to lose something before we can truly appreciate it. There may be quite a few annoyances about your girl that might cause you to think about living without her. Relationships can degenerate to a point where the smallest thing triggers the same old arguments.
In the heat of the moment we may decide that we've had enough and decide to separate. Then we start to feel the great emptiness of her absence and realize that a we've made a horrible mistake. If you've just broken up with your girlfriend, take a little time off to collect your thoughts about your relationship. The following points will help to guide your reflection.
1.) Does the thought of getting together with your ex raise any alarms in your head? If this is the case, you should give it a lot of careful thought before going forward with this. Remember why you left her in the first place. Will the same problems happen all over again? If so, how will you deal with it? Changing your behavior will not happen overnight.
It's pointless to continue if the same old problems never get resolved. Fear of being single, of loneliness, or of the unknown are poor reasons to continue a bad relationship. If a better relationship is just around the corner, there's no need to get stuck in a poor one. If your present circumstances are really bad, then any change will most likely be for the better.
2.) Own up to your shortcomings and actions. Anger has a way making you think that your point of view is right, no matter what you've done. It always shifts the blame to someone else. You can't make the necessary adjustments and changes when you are trapped in anger.
Taking responsibility is a sign of maturity and strength. Women are attracted by this. You should never force her to accept blame for her transgressions. There's no surer way to stir up more conflict. This sort of coercion doesn't work with an adult. This is how you would treat a child, not your ex.
3.) If you want your reconciliation to last, then the improvements and changes that you've made must be permanent. Reverting back to your old ways will only cause the relationship to revert back to it's usual problems and conflicts. So don't let old habits sabotage your efforts.
Taking some time to cool off and to think is vital to deciding what to do next. What you choose to do after a breakup with your girl will have a profound impact on your future relationship. Take your time, Use your head, and then choose your next course of action.
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