Knowing your partner is having extramarital affair with some other woman is devastating - but how do you find out some of the clues you need about it?
You just want to find out - and if you just know how...
Before you go any further though, realise that who he is cheating with might not be as important as looking for a solution in the first place. That other woman may just take a role of 'the other woman' or the role of 'his escape' from the marriage problem HE may be having.
However, I must admit it is not up to anyone else to decide what you really need to know of this extramarital affair. So if this is for your peace of mind, go on and find out.
1. Who is she?
This is the first clue you want to find out. In fact, once you have a good idea on who the third party he is having his extramarital affair with, it is easier to guess on where and when the affair actually take place.
Ok, how would you find out?
First step is to list down the names of people (ladies) he has mentioned recently. The good news is that there won't be a lot, and he must have mentioned the name once or twice before. This is due to the fact normally a cheating spouse did not plan his affair - hence he did not try to cover anything up right from the very beginning.
Normally the person he has an affair with has something in common with him - at least enough to entice his 'excitement' brain. This will make him blurt out her name subconsciously anyhow.
Tips: If you happened to have freaked out in the process and he is clear that you are having this suspicion, try to recall the name of person/woman who he talked about just before you have this suspicion.
2. What are they doing?
As you would have guessed, they would do things you wouldn't want to know about. But beside that, there must also be some other things they do - the things they have in common. Usually this is something that he doesn't have the opportunity to do with you.
This can be anything that you can think of - even including watching the footy in the stadium. If he and the other woman work in the same company, that can also be their common grounds.
3. Where does it take place?
If you have a rough idea on what he normally enjoys doing you will be able to guess it. There is a few rules associated with this including the 50 mile rule: make sure you do it 50 mile away, and the 'dangerous is safe' rule: the more dangerous it seems the safer it would be (This means he will actually meet his other woman in YOUR area - or if you live with him he'll meet his other woman in your place).
He can also meet her around their workplace if they work together.
4. When is he with her?
There is no easy answer for this, meeting his other woman around your area sounds crazy too.
Ok, if you live with him he sure knows your schedule - or he may have been more interested in your activity and schedule lately. As he is very close with you, he knows exactly which ones of your schedule would likely go through versus the ones that you may cancel in the last minute.
Whether you like it or not, you will have fixed schedule such as 'working late every Wednesday night' or 'Go out with the girls every Thursday night'. Some of them you just cannot get out of and he will use this very time to meet his significant other.
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Having this information should definitely help you in catching a cheating spouse. Check out cheating-spouse-alert.com to get much more information on how to catch cheating spouse - red handed definitely. By: Sally Webb.
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